Requiem To A Friend(What To Write In A Eulogy)

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 At the beginning of 2020 my dearest older brother,Leo passed away from a chronic illness.I was asked to write a personal eulogy of his life and present it to a close-knit group of family, friends, acquaintances .You could imagine how painstakingly difficult this was for me, or it would have been for anyone as close to my brother as I and others were.Now looking back over my presentation and what I had composed I will try and give my thoughts on this and what it should mean to anyone eulogizing a love one or friend.First, this is not for everyone and it goes without saying the amount of emotions can be  overwhelming for all that may find themselves in this position.This is merely a short expose on what should be uppermost on the presenter's mind if one is tasked with this honor.For it is truly an honor to celebrate the passing of a person who has been a major part of one's life.To began it will help to be reminded that we all have an expiration date and that the life one lives from birth to death is only highlighted by what's in between those two dates.The passing of anyone can be cause to reflect on many things.Most can relate to it's tragedy, it's untimeliness and utter shock of the loss.These things are common to all of us in nature.But here is the thing that is most important as a presenter.The spirit of the person's memory you are celebrating is what should be ever paramount in you as the presenter's mind.What that person brought to the people in his or her life is the connection you shared with them personally as well .This is your eulogy's content.This is the body of your requiem, your Swan Song.The presenter should be deadpan specific to a fault.Speak not only for instances which they were a good co-worker or friend, but what made them so to you.Did he or she have traits or skills that you could have wished in yourself.Be very certain to mention how they influenced you to want to be a better organizer if you yourself weren't very good at organizing things.Maybe that was something you saw in them that you admired and try to emulate in your everyday life as well.Maybe he or she was great at cooking your favorite dish and gave you hints and advice on how to make your recipe of this dish stand out.Keep a positive spend on your presentation.Be lighthearted and humorous when it is call for and most of all respectful.Think what would you want someone giving your own eulogy to say.I would certainly want the presenter to try and pick out the little nuances that made me well me!How these things affected our relationships are what makes our presentation intimate. You want to speak freely on how they gave your life meaning and what this meant to you.Incidents that you remember that could have only have happened with them when you were together that you can share are timeless to all in attendance.You can be as deliberate or ethereal as you wish if your heart desires.Remember to breath this will help with your delivery.Keep your notes close by and stick to the script .Use your script as a guide and this will keep you focused.This is a processional and celebration of what we as humans have been sharing in different cultures in different ways since the beginning of time.Cherish this moment as an experience that will give your own life meaning as well.Again this is not meant for everyone.But if you choose to undertake this event my friend  you too will find that your own connection to the  human race will be that more enlightened.The Youtuber,David Perell calls this kind of communicative connection"the serendipity vehicle".Your ability to get outside your comfort zone and interact with others you normally would not connect on a day-to-day bases will and can make you a more rounded and relaxed person.Be relaxed in your delivery it helps your listeners relax.Another thing I read that when one interviewer asked a great singer did she still felt butterflies or got stage fright before going on stage when performing?The diva who was renowned for giving flawless performances simply replied yes.Even those who perform for a living have slight moments of uncertainty but they persevere in order to share their gifts with the world.We(you) are sharing our gifts too so reveal in knowing that your gift has been and will be accepted by the universe and your loved ones. Thanks for letting me share your space and explore the mystery of the universe.